Mum splits opinion with divisive baby shower suggestion

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  • A mum has divided opinion online after suggesting that it shouldn't be frowned upon if a mum-to-be doesn't send out thank you cards after receiving baby shower gifts.

    There are a number of expectations, traditions and formalities surrounding baby showers for both the mum-to-be and her guests.

    Aside from the basics of what food will you serve and what baby shower games will you play, one of the main focuses of any baby shower celebration is to gift the mum-to-be an array of practical and appropriate presents for both mum and baby in the build up to the birth.

    As with any gift giving, polite ettiequte traditionally dictates that the recipient should thank anyone who bought and gave a gift.

    A popular way of doing this is by sending thank you notes.

    However, one mum has sparked a major debate online after suggesting that mums-to-be should be exempt from the expectation of writing and sending thank you notes.

    Taking to Twitter to share her controversial stance, the mum wrote: ‘At my baby shower yesterday, one woman said, before I started opening gifts, “Can we give you the gift of no thank-you notes?” And everyone gasped and I DIED and now I’m going to be that lady at every shower I go to.’

    Some people hailed the idea as ‘genius’ while others expressed outrage at the idea that someone would receive gifts and not send thank you notes.

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    What are your thoughts when it comes to thank you notes? A waste of paper or a sign of good manners? 

    One wrote: ‘If you can’t take a moment to write a note of thanks, you should return the gift to the giver. FFS. 🙄’.

    Another suggested giving the mum-to-be pre-addressed envelopes alongside the gift to make sending the thank you note easier. Not to mention making it obvious you expect to receive one…

    They wrote: ‘I think taking the time to write a thank you note is the right thing to do. We have lost too many of our human interactions & etiquette. I think a nice gift is pre addressed stamped envelopes for the honoured guest of a shower to make it a bit easier.’

    A third added: ‘Wow, I always think the least I can do for someone who has taken the time to think of a gift, gone out hunting for it, spent hard-earned money on it, wrapped it and made sure it got to me is to take two minutes write a thank-you note. It’s not that much of a chore in comparison.’

    Despite some criticism, the expectant mum’s suggestion did also receive an equal amount of support and praise.

    One said: ‘Yes! For me, this is a must for new moms. You have far more important things to do in the next year of your life! Please do not send a thank you note for any baby gift I ever give you.’

    Another person described the idea as ‘totally genius’ while a third said: ‘I remember getting chewed out by a great-aunt for not sending a note. I tell all new moms to skip the note and use that five minutes to nap. ❤’.

    Other users could see both sides of the debate and suggested that there was no need to send a thank you note if you opened the gift in front of the gift-giver.

    Summarising this approach one person said: ‘Our family’s guideline is if the person is present when you open the gift, no thank-you card needed. ‘Cause you saw it and thanked them to their face already.’

    What do you think? Do you think new mums should be allowed to give thank you notes a miss or does it show a lack of manners? Let us know your thoughts in the comments box below!