Mum sparks debate over plans to invoice no-shows at teenage daughter’s birthday party

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  • A mum has divided the internet by asking if it would be unreasonable for her to invoice parents of children who didn’t show up at her daughter’s party.

    The unnamed woman, who took to parenting forum Mumsnet to air her concerns, explained that very few of the guests invited had RSVP’d to the occasion, leaving her wondering if she should charge those who didn’t come.

    ‘My Daughter is 16. Her party is tomorrow….first one for 5 years,’ she wrote. ‘I have saved forever to do a fun and unusual activity for her “friendship group”.’

    She went to detail how the invites for the activity, which she later revealed to be paintballing, had been handed out in July, and reminders sent the following month before the deadline for paying the deposit, but that she and her daughter still hadn’t received a clear response.

    ‘TONIGHT 3 people have told daughter they are not coming. 2 have yet to say yes or no. Out of 12 (including daughter). Minimum for activity is 10.’

    ‘When, just when did people become so rude and unfeeling never mind unconscious of wasting money????????????????’ she exclaimed.

    ‘AIBU to send a terse note to these families? And maybe an invoice?’

    Her situation has split her fellow commenters, who sent a variety of responses to the question posed. Whilst some said that the prospective guests were ‘rude’ and ‘inconsiderate’, others added they perhaps wouldn’t have booked an activity without confirmed numbers, and wondered if parents not being able to offer lifts to and from the party may have been part of the problem.

    ‘Did they say they were coming before you paid the deposit?’ one asked. ‘If they didn’t, they’re rude for not responding but you were a bit silly to book. If they RSVPed and have now changed their minds YANBU. That’s shit.’

    ‘They are very inconsiderate. I can understand how tempting it is to say something, but at 16 years old, I think you have to let them sort it out themselves (unless your daughter wants you to get involved),’ another agreed.

    ‘It’s pants and a similar thing happened to my daughter but in year 9, the girls were being bitchy and doing it in purpose,’ a third empathised. ‘Fortunately she had another group of friends from an outside of school activity and invited 4 of them, she was honest and said 4 friends have let me down so do you girls fancy coming, they did and they all had a fab time.’

    ‘The minimum of 10 people will only be for the price, they won’t stop the activity if less turn up.’

    The initial poster replied to the comments, saying that her daughter had been upset by the development, and worried that it was reflective of how her friends had been treating her generally.

    ‘She is useful when people want her and dropped like a stone when they don’t. I rather suspect she wanted an activity that was “exotic” and appealing that no-one else had done to try and ensure that people did actually come,’ she admitted.

    ‘So glad my teen years are far behind me!!!!!!!’

    What do you think – would it be fair to invoice guests if they didn’t show up? Let us know your thoughts in the comment box below!