Radio presenter writes open letter to man who shamed her for being a working mum

Lots of mums have been agreeing with her

An emotional letter penned by a mum who was shamed by a man on social media for having a job is going viral on Twitter, with many parents voicing the same frustrations.

Susan Keogh, a radio presenter from Kildare, Ireland, posted the letter on her Twitter account as a response to the man who shamed for being a mum with a job.

The Today FM host said on Twitter: 'I was trolled earlier this week by a guy who thinks I shouldn't have a baby AND a job. Here's what I think.'

In the message to the social media hater, Susan wrote: 'I got your message. The one where you pointed out that if I missed by four-year old girl so much while I'm in work, then I should just give up my job. Or quit posting pictures of her, at the very least. How had I not thought of that? So helpful.'

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The mum of four-year-old Faith continued to point out that carrying on with her career after motherhood has actually helped her become a better mum, because it makes her happy.

'I like my job. It's really important to me. Not saving lives important, I get that, but it's important to me. I enjoy it. It makes me happy and content. And as a result, a better mom', she wrote in the message.

The radio presenter also wrote about society's different standards for mums and dads. While she apparently gets called out often for being a working mum, she said in the message that her husband, who also works in radio, never does.

'I miss bed times most nights. Do you know how many people point that out to me? Too many. My husband leaves the house at five every morning. He misses "wake up time" every day. Guess how many people point that out to him? You got it! None.'

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The radio presenter was flooded with messages of support

Susan also went on to write that she does sometimes feel guilty for being a working mum, but that she does it to give her daughter a 'better future'.

'Of course I fear she'll turn around and say she would have preferred if I'd been at home with her all of the time, but I'm hedging my bets', she candidly wrote, with a lot of parents praising her honesty.

The letter has rang true to many working mums, who've been agreeing with Susan on social media.

Fellow mum Breda McCague said: 'I get this lots too. Dont see the men getting any of it nor doing the half of the juggling!

Another mum, Paula Voiseux, also voiced her agreement with Susan's letter, writing: 'very very well put! Us working mothers can't win in some folk's eyes. Keep up the good work'.

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And it wasn't just mums sharing their experiences after Susan's letter. Juliette Gash tweeted to talk about her experience growing up with a working mother: 'My Mum worked when we were young, she's my hero and inspiration @suskeogh. Faceless bullies can be so brave on Twitter. You're awesome xxx'

Men also got involved, like Olly Kingston who wrote: 'fantastic and eloquent response Susan, well said. You're an inspiration to a lot of moms. No justification required.'

You're an inspiration to us too, Susan!


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