Bridesmaid’s angry post goes viral after she’s asked to pay for the bride’s wedding gown

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  • Whether you’ve had your own wedding or been a bridesmaid, it’s fair to say that most of us experience a certain level of – how can we put it – bridezilla stress.

    But one bridesmaid’s angry rant has gone viral, after she revealed just how much of a bridezilla her friend turned into. So much so, that it leaves the writer – Hayley – questioning the entire friendship!

    The rant, which was posted to, starts off by detailing how excited she was to have been asked to be a bridesmaid, but that her friend, Caroline, quickly become ‘overzealous’ with lots of emails asking for input on ‘everything from bridesmaid dress colours, hairstyles, make-up looks, bridal dresses, buttonholes for the groomsmen (something I had to Google) and table decorations.’

    Things then took a turn for the worse when, one day while she was at work, Hayley received an email from the bride asking for a spreadsheet with all the wedding cake details.

    ‘Hey Hayley, How’s it going? I need some cake-maker suggestions by COB today please, Jase and I really want to get a wriggle on with this and need the contact details, price brackets, flavours and an idea of how prestigious the vendor is – in a table would be great. Excel is probably best please. Thanks!’

    ‘I had to read the email about three times to gauge what she was asking me. After the third disbelieving scan, I felt my blood start boiling’, Hayley writes. ‘I have a full time job, for crying out loud, how am I meant to get all this info by then?’

    However, the final ‘clincher’ came when, after spending $550 on her own bridesmaid dress, Hayley got the most shocking email of all when the bride set her heart on a wedding dress twice her budget.

    ‘The latest bridal update was a long email outlining how she and Jase were hugely over their bridal budget now that she’d splurged on the dress. That it was “totally fine if you can’t” but she would really love if we could “pitch in” around $150 each towards her “dream dress”. That it’d mean so very much to her and would mean that as she walked down the aisle, she’d be wearing something we’d all had a part in.

    ‘Yes, she was essentially asking her bridal party to chip in for her dress. As well as our own outfits, accommodation, the hen’s party, bridal shower and the three spa days she wanted us to plan prior to the wedding.’

    The email outraged Hayley so much, that she was left ‘starting to think I might have to bail on this wedding, and friendship’.

    The post has since been shared over 2,000 times and received comments from people who share her outrage, with one writing: ‘Run far, far away. She is not your friend. She is using you. Anyone who asks you to do that for her wedding is absolutely not your friend at all.’

    Have you had a similar experience to Hayley when asked to be a bridesmaid? Leave a comment below!