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A body positive blogger has slammed stereotypes which say women should always be smaller than their boyfriends.
Essex-based Megan Jayne Crabbe, who writes under the name bodiposipanda, has made a name for herself on social media for her honest and relatable posts about recovering from an eating disorder and learning to love her body.
In a recent snap she posted of herself and her boyfriend on holiday, Megan proudly poses in a bikini alongside a frank caption that fights back against those who believe women should always weigh less than their partners.
‘”If you weigh more than your boyfriend, you’re too fat”,’ she writes. ‘That’s something I learned while we were still on the playground, back before any of us had even been near a boy. I don’t know where it came from, TV, magazines, overheard conversations – but it was fact.’
‘Beautiful women were always light and graceful, the men strong and solid. So that the boyfriends could lift you up and swing you round, you his feather light princess.’
But Megan admits that she’s exhausted by these pressures, going on to expose the reality that so many women have to face when they’re bigger than their other half.
‘As I got older that image became one more reason I was convinced that my body made me unlovable,’ she continues. ‘And it isn’t an image that only hurts women, it hurts men who can’t reach the strong, solid expectation, it hurts people who don’t fit the gender binary, people who don’t slot in the limited boxes our culture puts gender into.’
‘The truth is that every single one of us are worthy of love, whether our bodies are light, strong, soft, bigger or smaller than our partners. Whether we believe that we’re worthy or not. We already are. That means you too,’ she concludes.
Her loyal followers (nearly 800,000, to be precise) couldn’t have been more proud of her for the candid message, with the post receiving over 1,500 comments so far.
‘Thank you for this post and these thoughts. More people need to hear them and how these heteronormative perspectives negatively affect us all,’ wrote one grateful commenter.
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‘Even at my smallest I have always been a heavy girl and heavier than my partners and it’s always bothered me – made me feel less feminine or less beautiful- thank you for this post!!! You’re totally right it’s a stereotype that’s unrealistic. You made my day today!’ another agreed.
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