‘I feel trapped in my relationship’

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  • I’ve been with my partner for 7 years and we are engaged and live together with our 4-year-old son.

    Recently I’ve begun to develop really strong feelings for a man at work and although I love my boyfriend I don’t think I’m IN love with him anymore. The man at work is 20 years older than me and he has a girlfriend of his own.

    I feel I can’t talk to anyone about my feelings for this man as they may judge me for liking someone behind my boyfriend’s back. If I’m truly honest, I think I would have split up with my boyfriend if I knew I could manage financially on my own but I can’t.

    I feel trapped in this relationship and sometimes it’s so hard as I like this other man so much and really want something to happen between us, even though I know it probably never will.

    I shouldn’t be thinking of other men like this if I am with someone should I? I feel like I need to and want to sleep with someone else but feel guilty for staying with my boyfriend when I don’t love him.

    Is it normal to think of other men in this way when you’re in a relationship? In a previous relationship I started feeling like this and wanted to be with other blokes so I ended it straight away because I knew it meant that I didn’t want to be with him any more but this time I have a house and a child, I really don’t know what to do!


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