6 things kids love to hear their parents say to each other, according to a couples counsellor

Find out how these simple phrases can benefit your family

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Kids pick up on everything - including what you say to your partner. Here are six phrases you'll want them to hear...

Maintaining a romantic relationship while raising children isn't easy - that's a lot of plates you've got to keep spinning just for those two things alone, let alone everything else life throws at you. Between matrescence and explaining the mental load, it can often feel like parenting is at odds with fostering a healthy relationship, but that doesn't always have to be the case.

In fact, some parenting hacks can also improve your relationship, as counsellor Erin Mitchell explains. Erin and her husband Stephen are the founders of Couples Counseling for Parents - which does exactly what it says on the tin. And over on her Instagram, she's shared six phrases of love and gratitude that parents can say to each other and kids will love to hear.

6 things kids love to hear their parents say to one another

  1. "Thank you"
  2. "I am so glad you are [child's name] other parent"
  3. "I love getting to be a parent with you"
  4. "You are working hard and doing a great job"
  5. "I am glad we're in this together"
  6. "I love you"

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Writing in the caption, Erin explains, "The health of our couple relationships is of paramount importance to the health of our families. Sometimes the best thing we can do for our relationship is the absolute easiest... just say the thing. Let’s let our kids hear their parents speak gratitude and love to one another."

In the carousel post, she adds, "When kids hear their parents speak gratitude and love to one another it may make them blush, it may make them role their eyes, it may make them smile ear to ear, but one thing it certainly does - it helps them to feel rooted, safe and secure."

And Erin's followers were quick to share their feelings on why love and gratitude in a relationship are important to them when raising kids. One said, "My daughter is only 13 months so she doesn’t speak really but when her dad and I kiss goodbye in the morning, she giggles. It’s the cutest".

Another added, "When my husband and I hug, my 3 year old always wants to run up and join in. We have lots of family hugs".

Meanwhile, one follower wrote in the comments, "Kids are like sponges. This is such a great reminder of how we show up is so important not just for your partner and you, but your kids".

In other relationship news, try these tips to spice up your relationship or find out why you might have gone off sex. Meanwhile, here are five signs that you're parenting your partner, and we've asked the experts how to fix your marriage without therapy.

Ellie Hutchings
Family News Editor

Ellie is GoodtoKnow’s Family News Editor and covers all the latest trends in the parenting world - from relationship advice and baby names to wellbeing and self-care ideas for busy mums. Ellie is also an NCTJ-qualified journalist and has a distinction in MA Magazine Journalism from Nottingham Trent University and a first-class degree in Journalism from Cardiff University. Previously, Ellie has worked with BBC Good Food, The Big Issue, and the Nottingham Post, as well as freelancing as an arts and entertainment writer alongside her studies. When she’s not got her nose in a book, you’ll probably find Ellie jogging around her local park, indulging in an insta-worthy restaurant, or watching Netflix’s newest true crime documentary.