Mum of six slams cruel troll who says her ‘vag must be a train wreck’

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  • Krechelle Carter shared abusive private messages in a public stand against online bullying.

    The Australian blogger, who is known as Eight at Home to her fans, took to Instagram to share screenshots of the mum-shaming messages she’d received from another user.

    ‘You have absolutely no credibility,’ wrote the troll. ‘Also your vag must be a train wreck. The quality of life your kids are going to have into the future is gonna be just terrible.’

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    Hey mamma, I know what you've been thinking about yourself, and I want you to know that it's not okay and you deserve better. Sometimes we can be our own worst enemies, the things we say to ourselves can be absolutely shocking. And although most of us do it, it's definitely not healthy to let those cruel voices get too loud. Beating yourself up about how your not pretty enough, strong enough, a good enough mother; friend, sister, daughter. Comparing yourself everyday to other people and then tearing yourself down even more- it's definitely not okay. And of course most of us hide it away in fear it will show some kind of weakness, or even worse somebody might reach out and we'll be forced to talk and cry about it. Scary stuff. So Let's talk about it; I've struggled with anxiety from my earliest memories in life. In every situation I assume everyone in the room is staring at me, judging me, every whisper was directed at me; every Facebook status, Instagram post, snide remark. I mean how could it not be when I am so large and bombastic and just an all round terrible person who nobody would want to be friends with. Pretty crazy right? Pretty cruel? Pretty much 15 years of my life day in, day out. Until one day I decided it had to stop. With a little help from talking about it with my husband, friends and family; my mind set changed and my positive voices became louder than my negative one. Sure I still struggle and on those days I reach out. I just wanted to let you know. You lady; are more beautiful than you know and are doing better than you ever dreamed, you're caring, kind and compassionate and with all the things in life we have to juggle you deserve a medal!! Whichever part of the journey you're at, seek help, ask a friend, a family member, a helpline, a doctor; I did all of these things. And they all helped in completely different ways. And While it might have become normal to you to think all of these terrible things day in and day out, you don't always have to live that way; I needed to let you know, things can change and that I see you. You are loved. Krechelle Xx

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    He then took aim at Krechelle’s weight, adding, ‘You’re also chronically obese; Jesus man you hit the trifecta in life.’

    The taunts continued with the troll writing, ‘Feral. I feel so bad for the children I hope you at least adopt one out in the hopes that it at least gets a good life.’

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    Take me back to this day where my smile was full of spirit. Take me back to before the last two years has changed me and taken me of merit. Before I was told that from the burden of these chains I’d never break free. Take me back to before I knew that my life would be different forever, I would not ever again just be me. Another doctor, another scan, another upsetting diagnosis. Take me back to before chronic illness took me for its prisoner. Another poke, another jab; a nurses face so kind. I tell her needles don’t bother me but it’s like she sees what’s inside. Pain control, patched up holes but never a definitive answer. Diseases with no cures Diseases with no rules Without discrimination. They pick on me whenever they like without any warning. A birthday missed, one less kiss; a mother that’s in mourning. Another ambulance, another hospital. Another night alone. I never thought that any of this could happen to me. I want to hide away; look down to the ground; I don’t want to be asked anymore questions. Problems that will not resolve, technology not yet evolved and so it is and I wait another day for another test and answer. Another week. Another month; my bed my worst enemy and also my savior. Friends I’ve lost or just misplaced , opportunities I’ve missed; sometimes it feels like everything is slipping. So down I go, following along the new path that is my own, fumbling and tripping. People changing, moving on; planning for the future. All I want is one small plan something I could finish. But I’m too scared to let me down and everyone around me too. So instead I sit and wait it out. I miss that smile. Im not the same as I was before. Take me back. Take me back. Krechelle Xx

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    But Krechelle, who is currently recovering from surgery, had the perfect response. And she decided it was important to make it public.

    She wrote, ‘I’m not sharing this for sympathy. I share this because there are people that need to see it’s happening everywhere. It’s not just you. You are not alone.’

    First, she addressed the troll’s description of her ‘train wreck’ vagina, writing, ‘My vagina is perfectly intact btw because c-sections (even if I had of had them out my hooo hah it would be even more the beautifuler for it)’.

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    ‘Secondly, my children are perfectly fine,’ she assured him. ‘We eat broccoli and have craft supplies and we let them run around enough.’

    Jokingly, she added, ‘We free range parent – except for when we lock them up at night (gotta rest at some point) and don’t want the foxes to get them. My kids – they are the best thing I ever did with my life. They are loved and special.’

    Finally, she tackled the troll’s malicious comments about her weight.

    ‘Thirdly, as for my obesity. Yep it’s true I’m obese,’ she admitted, before declaring that she had indeed ‘hit the trifecta’ with ‘a gorgeous adoring husband, beautiful, healthy children and family & friends that spread for miles’.

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    Some days are just hectic. Yesterday nothing went to plan, we couldn’t get out the door. Everyone needed to go to the toilet, I left our money at home, they were hungry, they were full, they were bored, they touched everything. They got in peoples way. Then they had melt downs, and then they had to go to the toilet again and we still had gotten nothing done. I literally felt like we were loosing our minds and that we looked like the worst people ever growling at our children every ten seconds 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ but at the end of the day I look back at this picture and all I remember is everyone giggling while I tried to take a picture and a beautiful old soul telling us how brave we were. Life is good. Tantrums,toilet trips and all. Krechelle Xx #mumlife #mommyblogger #kindness #blogging #largefamilylife #instamom #motherhoodrising #adelaide #farmhousedecor #family #mummy #fitness #homeworkout #renovations #mumssupportingmums #blogger #mumblog #reallife #adelaideblogger #boweldisease #farmhouse #autoimmune #weightlosstransformation #shoppingwithkids #homeworkout

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    Krechelle’s followers were quick to leap to her defence. ‘Wow! Why are people so cruel?!’ asked one.

    ‘Why would someone go out of their way to write something so negative to someone. Just remember it says more about them than it does about you.’

    ‘Well said beautiful. You are so amazing and strong,’ another added.