‘He cheated, then I cheated’

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  • My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year-and-a-half. We have a lot of fun together, share just about everything and have amazing sex. But there are problems.

    For some reason he thought that it was OK to go online and talk to older women. He also started sending them texts, telling them how he wanted to ‘hook up’. After about 2 weeks of him not wanting to be around me I started to suspect something was wrong. So I hacked into his accounts online, and found out that he was still using the dating site we met through to meet other women!

    From this point trust went out the door and I broke it off for a few months. But eventually we talked everything through and got back together.

    Since we have been back together he’s cheated a second time. Only this time it was with a random girl who he met at a club. I only know this because once again, I got the same feeling that something wasn’t right so I hacked into his mobile phone bills online, found a number, called it and it was the girl – she told me everything.

    Once again, trust has run right out the door and I’m left not knowing what to do since I do love this man so much.

    For 3 years I’ve known another guy through the internet. We chat sometimes and he gives me the attention I need when my boyfriend’s being flaky. We’d never met face to face, and I never really wanted to as he has been with his girlfriend for 2 1/2 years.

    But recently I decided to meet up with him. He was nice and lovely and we began to grow close. One weekend I was visiting a friend in the area where he lives and he contacted me saying he wanted to meet up. Before I knew it I was having sex with him. I thought when it was over, I’d feel guilty but to be honest, I don’t at all.

    Now I don’t know if I should tell my boyfriend, stay with him and try and make it work, or let him go seeing as he cheated first? I’m not happy to be a cheater, but I was only doing what I thought was right. What should I do?


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