Relationship expert urges parents to prioritise partners over children for this crucial reason

'Don't think of prioritisation as what happens at the top' warns Married at First Signt's relationship expert.

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A relationship expert is urging parents to prioritise their partners over their children and his reasoning will make you completely rethink your relationship.

Married At First Sight expert Paul Carrick Brunson recently sparked backlash after he revealed he prioritises his partner over his kids. But he has since gone on to explain the method behind his theory and we must admit, it makes total sense.

It comes after Anna Williamson revealed the 'biggest mistake couples go through when they've had a baby' and we revealed the many ways you can help ease the pressure when you become a parent. First, ask yourself do you know what matrescence is? and when it becomes too much we help you to explain the mental load to your partner.

Speaking to Ranvir Singh who is sitting in for Lorraine Kelly on the Lorraine Show, Paul defended his comments. He said, "There are a lot of people who disagree, I get it, but most marriage counsellors and therapists agree with this statement and the reason is, don't think of prioritisation as what happens at the top, but the bottom."

Paul went on to explain, "Your relationship is the foundation upon which everything builds. So if you have a strong union and strong communication, your children have strong communication, typically. If you have the ability to resolve conflict, then your children have a better chance of resolving conflict.

“To me, your marriage is the foundation. A strong foundation means a stronger chance for your children to be emotionally adjusted and healthy,” he added.

Paul Carrick Brunson, relationship expert Married At First Sight

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One X (formerly Twitter) one user agrees with the principle of putting a partner before children. They tweeted, "Love your kids. Do anything for them. Be the BEST mom possible but don’t put your marriage on the back burner for your kids! Your husband is your life partner. Eventually, your kids will leave and start their OWN life with their SPOUSE."

Another user wrote, "I’ve heard the secret to a successful relationship after kids is that you are supposed to put your partner before your children."

And a third added, "I really don’t think it matters but the dynamic is if you're married you have to put your partner before your kids in order to have a good foundation Now that doesn’t mean not have your kid's back and listen to them that means that you and your partner have to be on the same page."

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Selina Maycock
Senior Family Writer

Selina is a Senior Family Writer for GoodtoKnow and has more than 16 years years of experience. She specialises in royal family news, including the latest activities of Prince George, Charlotte, Louis, Archie and Lilibet. She also covers the latest government, health and charity advice for families. Selina graduated from the University of Sheffield in 2006 with a degree in Journalism, and gained her NCTJ and NCE qualifications. During her career, she’s also written for Woman, Woman's Own, Woman&Home, and Woman's Weekly as well as Heat magazine, Bang Showbiz - and the Scunthorpe Telegraph. When she's not covering family news, you can find her exploring new countryside walking routes, catching up with friends over good food, or making memories (including award-winning scarecrows!)