Mum accused of being ‘awful and selfish’ for wanting to leave her baby behind while she takes her older two children on holiday

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  • A mum has been slammed for revealing she’s considering leaving her toddler at home while she jets off on holiday with her two older kids.

    The Mumsnet user took to the parenting forum to ask others for advice on the matter.

    ‘Me and my OH[other half] have been discussing going on holiday with the children in late August, I was telling my mother about it and she offered to look after my 2 year old for the week,’ she began.

    ‘Spoke to my OH and he thought it was a great idea he would ask his parents to help my mother out that week as well.’

    While admitting the proposition had received a very negative reaction from her brother’s girlfriend, who has called her ‘selfish’ and ‘awful’, the mum went on to say that she just thought it would result in a more laid-back trip.

    ‘We would be be able to go to theme/water parks and take the older two on rides etc without one of us having to stay with the baby,’ she continued.

    ‘Would be able to relax a lot more around the pool as my older two are very confident in water.

    ‘Does it really make me a selfish and awful mother?’

    Reacting to what they’d read, other parents commented on the thread, hitting out at the mum and explaining why they disagreed with the idea.

    ‘I don’t think it’s nice at all, sorry. You’re a family,’ said one.

    ‘You made a choice to have a baby who is now two. I’d hate to have a family holiday leaving out a member of the family.

    ‘Sorry. I do think it’s quite selfish and sends the wrong message to your older children and the younger one too when she is old enough to see the photos etc.’

    Another equally unimpressed person agreed: ‘Couldn’t do this, sorry. Baby will miss you so much!’

    It seems, however, that not everyone thought the mum was in the wrong, with one quipping that her brother’s girlfriend should ‘pipe down’.

    ‘For goodness sake, your brother’s girlfriend is very unreasonable,’ sympathised a one person.

    ‘She doesn’t get to decide how your parents spend their time! You’re not selfish and awful. The 2 year old is not going to remember anyway and you get to do a lovely active holiday with the rest!’

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